I don’t think change efforts have to be work. In particular, using metaphors to stimulate change can be a very playful process.
In a coaching session with a manager who was a bit of a perfectionist, he and I talked about problems his team described when his teaching mode slipped into preaching. While exploring together how
to loosen that pattern playfully, I asked him
to think of situations where he didn’t take the teacher role.
"I used to hitchhike in the Sixties," he recalled, "and I learned a lot from conversations with people who gave me a ride."
"I used to hitchhike in the Sixties," he recalled, "and I learned a lot from conversations with people who gave me a ride."
When he began to imagine himself in meetings as “hitching a ride,” conversing with people who work for him as if they’re traveling companions, it made a world of difference.
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Asked to consider who her inner critic resembled, another client I'll call Elsa
said, "She
looks like me, but sounds like my mother."
When I asked “How is
she dressed?” Elsa burst out laughing: “She’s dressed like
Minnie Pearl from the Grand Ole Opry.”
You know Elsa will never again respond to her inner judge in the same
way. How could she? She’ll be picturing the words coming from a
sassy comedian wearing a big straw hat with a $1.98 price tag
hanging from the side!
