CJ Fitzsimons is a successful coach, consultant, and trainer. He wanted fine-tuning in coaching his client Hans, an Enneagram personality style Eight.
CJ: Hans was livid that his superiors had decided to send him to their Assessment Center (AC), and if he passed he would lose much of the freedom he enjoyed in his job.
I asked Hans to assign different places in the room for two roles, Hans today and Hans in his new job after the AC. I interviewed him in each for a few minutes, then asked how he felt in his new job. "Not half as bad as I expected," he replied. We agreed to a half-day session before the AC, and I scheduled to talk with Mary a couple of days beforehand.
CJ's fieldwork was to coach Hans into both/and thinking, which he did quite well yet in a different way than I might have done. I help clients identify the "X" and the "Y" that are apparently incompatible, explore the underlying objectives, then ask themselves, "How could I do both X and Y?" CJ helped Hans reframe the belief that if he was vulnerable he was out of control, but accomplished this by getting Hans to do a role switch, a technique from CJ's training in psychodrama (similar to the Gestalt empty-chair technique).
CJ: I knew Hans was concerned the assessors would "seek out weaknesses and bore into them," which offended his need for fairness. As I wrote our agenda on a flip chart, I invited him to move to my chair and to imagine himself as his AC assessor. I interviewed the "assessor" about his approach, how he'd treat Hans, what he'd look for in his assessment – keeping the questions and tone light.My conversations with CJ demonstrate the nature of collaborative mentoring, how we learn from each other. I helped him see how both/and thinking can reframe a client's underlying beliefs; he showed me the effectiveness of psychodrama with a business client.
Hans relaxed visibly, his body going from hunched/defensive to laid-back/open. He grinned, "It’ll be OK. He’s not out to get me. He’s only doing his job."